It’s done. As of ten minutes ago I have dinged ALL of my prospects. They were men from different walks of life, men of vastly different backgrounds and fairly different ages. They were all reasonably interesting, attractive and nice, and they were all eager. I didn’t feel the desire to get beyond the first or second date stage (let alone the ‘fully dressed’ stage) with any of them. Maybe their eagerness was the problem?
#1) The starving artist type
A man who’s probably quite a bit older, in his mid forties maybe, divorced, somewhat disheveled financially albeit not physically, recovered alcoholic, sports fan, a creative fool type of guy who really just wants sex and companionship (who doesn’t, after all). All good, except that he’s probably also pretty simple and not the smartest cookie. Perfectly nice guy, only I’d trample all over him.
#2) The preppy dorkster type
He’s the kind of guy who is wise beyond his years. Probably closer to my own age, maybe in his early thirties. Most likely a reasonably good looking guy who takes pride in his appearance and makes a point in working out regularly, but wears glasses and scarves. He’s from Europe or Asia, came here for school, and went to an above average university to get an above average degree. Maybe he has a PhD in math or finance or some other abstract field. He seems humble or even shy at first, but when you get to know him you realize that he’s actually ridiculously full of himself. He’s the loner type, probably has a lot more money in the bank than he lets on, and has a polarizing personality. Doesn’t do it for me.
#3) The smart but laid back boy next door type
A young guy, probably my own age. The type you’d find spending his early twenties at some random European university, having a good time and getting a degree on the side. The type who makes good money and is reasonably passionate about his job, who is smart and lives the good life, the type who strikes you as someone whose social life still looks like it did junior year college: working some, playing sports with the guys on the weekend, traveling, not worrying about much. A seriously cool, nice guy except that I feel like I don’t have much to learn from him. Big problem.
#4) The ambitious trust fund baby type
He’s the type of man I actually might end up with at some point. He’s probably well-educated, bright, well-spoken and well-read, comes from money and has money thanks to his own ambition and successful career. He’s most likely older than me, and is at home in New York or London more than in Boston. He drives nice cars, stays at nice hotels, owns nice houses and eats at nice restaurants. He’s reasonably sophisticated, in reasonable shape, and hopefully already worked through his midlife crisis. The challenge? Finding a type #4 who lives within a twenty mile radius, doesn’t take success and money for granted, has a body as amazing as P’s, and doesn’t have commitment phobia but is young enough to not feel a sense of urgency about having children.
Where do I find one like that?
